Can Boys And Girls Be just friends ?
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Very interesting question....
I have had a opportunity to live abroad for a long period of time and had a close look at this subject. My view is its all dependent on your upbringing and the friend circle of both the person in question.
The line between friendship and chemistry happening is very thin and blurred. The problem in our country is we have to play lot of roles in our lives and excel in all of them. A good child, student, sister/brother, role model, husband, wife, parent, employee, friend, religious person & many more. With such huge expectation it is advisable to have compartments for each so that you do justice to all. In western countries people are not under so much pressure and expectation so they can dance to the fancy of their mind without feeling guilty about it.
So in our scenario I would suggest a guarded friendship and not taking anything for granted between opposite sexes.
Very interesting question....
I have had a opportunity to live abroad for a long period of time and had a close look at this subject. My view is its all dependent on your upbringing and the friend circle of both the person in question.
The line between friendship and chemistry happening is very thin and blurred. The problem in our country is we have to play lot of roles in our lives and excel in all of them. A good child, student, sister/brother, role model, husband, wife, parent, employee, friend, religious person & many more. With such huge expectation it is advisable to have compartments for each so that you do justice to all. In western countries people are not under so much pressure and expectation so they can dance to the fancy of their mind without feeling guilty about it.
So in our scenario I would suggest a guarded friendship and not taking anything for granted between opposite sexes.
Chemistry is everywhere...
Chemistry is in every nook and corner. Every action has a equal and opposite reaction. So it is natural if there is chemistry between a girl and a boy. Opposite poles always attracts some reveal them called "chemistry" some hide it called "culture". so it is my perspective from which I am seeing the SUN a hot ball or life giving wonderful creation.
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amolkant
Chemistry is in every nook and corner. Every action has a equal and opposite reaction. So it is natural if there is chemistry between a girl and a boy. Opposite poles always attracts some reveal them called "chemistry" some hide it called "culture". so it is my perspective from which I am seeing the SUN a hot ball or life giving wonderful creation.
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amolkant
I support the motion strongly
I will qoute from different sources [without giving refs in some cases]:
Friendship is co-operative and supportive behavior between two or more people.
There is no friendship between men that has not an element of sexuality in it. Beware!!!. There is a vast difference in coexistance, tolerance and friendship, most people confuse one with another. In case of a boy and a girl sexual desires will definitely overweight friendship, these desires may not be exhibited in normal situation though.
I strongly agree with this.
Westerners are human too, human feelings/natural urges don't change from east to west, but yes human can unconciously suppress his natural desires (Sociology: instinct vs Ego/Super-ego).
murugesh.jai hindh
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murugesh.jai hindh
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no chance
its impossible...................
its impossible...................
indianking
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Can boy and girl can be friends
Why not, it is possible, just because a few can not be so , it does not mean boy and girl can not be just friends. We can very well see thousands of girls and boys are coming out of so many colleges, particularly engineering and medical colleges, after finishing the courses. During the 4 year or 5year course they become friends and part with on completion. After a decade, when they met, they used to introduce their life partners that so and so was my class mate , a friend of mine and as he or she was abroad or any other reason, he or she could not come to our marriage etc.Of course, some of them may land up in love and end up in marrying or not marrying depending upon the decision of the parents or circumstances. Do you mean to say that all boys and girls moving together as friends end up as lovers , I dont think so.
Why not, it is possible, just because a few can not be so , it does not mean boy and girl can not be just friends. We can very well see thousands of girls and boys are coming out of so many colleges, particularly engineering and medical colleges, after finishing the courses. During the 4 year or 5year course they become friends and part with on completion. After a decade, when they met, they used to introduce their life partners that so and so was my class mate , a friend of mine and as he or she was abroad or any other reason, he or she could not come to our marriage etc.Of course, some of them may land up in love and end up in marrying or not marrying depending upon the decision of the parents or circumstances. Do you mean to say that all boys and girls moving together as friends end up as lovers , I dont think so.
Can boys and girls Be just friends?
Hi,
In my perception the boys and girls can be friends but with in their limit because if they will try to go out of the limit they can fell down from their respects.This is only my observation that a boy always try to misguide the girl but if the girl is correct then the boy got failure.So, the girls can be their makers itself.
It is not bad to talk with each-others but just like your friends not more then a friend,but yes if somebody has decided that they want to go beyond the friendship then it should also not be bounded becoz it`s their own will.
Hi,
In my perception the boys and girls can be friends but with in their limit because if they will try to go out of the limit they can fell down from their respects.This is only my observation that a boy always try to misguide the girl but if the girl is correct then the boy got failure.So, the girls can be their makers itself.
It is not bad to talk with each-others but just like your friends not more then a friend,but yes if somebody has decided that they want to go beyond the friendship then it should also not be bounded becoz it`s their own will.
Boys don't think so. Girls do. Hmmm. I've seen this in a movie. But I don't think they are mutually exclusive. Boys can fantasize about being lovers with a girl, and girls can believe that boys "just want to be friends" with them. Denial works pretty well to keep a friendship together.
renuka.boricha
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It depends on one's beliefs. If a person believes a man and a woman can be friends , he/ she will always have buddies of the other sex. If the person thinks it is not possible , he/ she can never be buddies with the other sex.
Half of my close friends are men. I think the line has to be drawn quite clearly.
Nothing wrong in falling in love with your friend, but then that will be with one person probably, you can't fall in love with ALL your friends of the opposite sex. The rest will remain buddies.
Yes ! I do agree Friendship of Boys & Girls and I welcome the same.
Hai ! Why does it not possible. I have so many friends i.e. childhood, Marble play mates, Galli mates, Kabadi mates. etc. I am quiet comfortable with them. They are also very comfortable. Even with their life partners we are comfortable. The way in which we look at it. Everything is right. Nothing is wrong as long as you are gentle and polite in thinking as well as in actions.
Hai ! Why does it not possible. I have so many friends i.e. childhood, Marble play mates, Galli mates, Kabadi mates. etc. I am quiet comfortable with them. They are also very comfortable. Even with their life partners we are comfortable. The way in which we look at it. Everything is right. Nothing is wrong as long as you are gentle and polite in thinking as well as in actions.
NO!! Guys hate to hear "he is just a friend"
Boys don't think so. Girls do.I think girls really do just wanna be friends somtimes....but boys just can't control themselves
