Do not hesitate in asking Help from your Spouse

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Being a working woman is quite a challenging task. And the toughest part of the day begins right from the morning when she has to rush to the kitchen for preparing food for the family, she has to prepare the kids for the school, prepares the breakfast, if there are elders present in the family then she also has to look after them especially giving them the breakfast and morning tea and after doing all these chores she herself has to get ready for the work. In this whole cycle of doing various activities she might feel going crazy at a point of time and might face severe fatigue hence she can also ask for some helping hand in the home, and a spouse could be the best helping hand at this time. Both husband and wife can work cordially by dividing their tasks. Meanwhile the lady is working in the kitchen the husband can prepare the kids for their school, these are the busiest hours for a lady when even a smallest of help of putting the things up and down, cutting, chopping, even managing the bed by the spouse seems to be the biggest help to her. This has to be done on the basis of mutual understanding. If Both husband and wife understand each other then help and support would come out naturally.
 
It will depend largely on the spouse whether he is willing to help his wife or not. Since the aim is to bring about ‘mutual understanding’, it could be help in any way that the husband can give the wife. If the husband is FORCED to help the wife, he might become UNHAPPY otherwise.

Both husband and wife should be able to make a choice with respect to the household chores. At the end of the day, it should be a happy family in which the husband and wife support each other emotionally and financially.
 
Marriage brings in responsibilities along with soul contentment . The Hindu marriage is based on 7 vows of which the sixth vow declares that “they(spouse) vow to be together forever for all responsibilities”. So it is like something very much prefixed at the very first step of their marriage, that both the man and the woman would be shareholders of equal stakes for lifelong, but still it has been clearly witnessed that the responsibilities of household chores, kids and their education, relatives and relationships are broadly shifted onto the shoulders of the ladies. I won’t say that helping your wife is to be précised on your mutual understanding rather it is the duty of every husband who has stepped into the marital life. As far as the happiness of the family is concerned, I don’t think that sharing of responsibilities would harm the peace at home. The ladies would be more happier and pro-active to various other discussions and decision makings and will be at par with their husbands; because they won’t be that much tired anymore. Thus, at any domain, the sense of accountabilities has to be equal which in turn won’t be burdensome to any of the shoulders.
 
Marriage brings in responsibilities along with soul contentment . The Hindu marriage is based on 7 vows of which the sixth vow declares that “they(spouse) vow to be together forever for all responsibilities”. So it is like something very much prefixed at the very first step of their marriage, that both the man and the woman would be shareholders of equal stakes for lifelong, but still it has been clearly witnessed that the responsibilities of household chores, kids and their education, relatives and relationships are broadly shifted onto the shoulders of the ladies. I won’t say that helping your wife is to be précised on your mutual understanding rather it is the duty of every husband who has stepped into the marital life. As far as the happiness of the family is concerned, I don’t think that sharing of responsibilities would harm the peace at home. The ladies would be more happier and pro-active to various other discussions and decision makings and will be at par with their husbands; because they won’t be that much tired anymore. Thus, at any domain, the sense of accountabilities has to be equal which in turn won’t be burdensome to any of the shoulders.
 
The sense of accountability would pertain to Hindu families. The other religious sectors should not be ignored.

The purpose is not only to think in terms of the reduction in the household responsibilities for the women; some men could have more responsibilities than asked for. For example, he might have the responsibility of his parents.

Help should, therefore, arrive to both the persons. Either this could be in the form of sharing of every responsibility or dividing the domains. (The former being preferable) Here, comes in the 'duty' of sharing the responsibilities in whatever form. There should be a choice of choosing the responsibilities .
 
Without being specific to any religion, even Bible has versed regarding the sharing of duties within spouse. Rather it avers that the affection of a husband should be well shown through other activities apart from the sexual relationship. Again in Colossians 3:21, it says about the duty of husbands in modeling and giving directions to their children (just for an example). The same aspects have been talked about by Quran too.
So the discussion is not regarding what a husband should do or should not do, it is all about helping and sharing of chores between the two. So I think it is high time that we should move on from “should” aspect to “must” one.
Lets make it a habit, a norm for every spouse to follow!
 
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