crazysarah
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Why only women have to sacrifice for their family? why not men? I just cannot grasp this ideal Bahu types psychology of Indian Culture and minds..
Why only women?
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i have been asking this question over and over from everyone. by the way, it is not the Indian culture, it is the stupid part of eastern culture in general. we bloody men have designed our women to sacrifice for our own benefits. sad and sad.
Well, I do not think personally that only women sacrifice but men also do the same for their families to great extent.. the devotion of men and women makes a family.. you cannot say that only women do the whole lot of sacrifice..
we need to accept that in eastern culture women are forced to sacrifice themsleves, but nobody ask this from men. it is a must for women to ignore themselves for the sake of others.
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thewinner
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That's not only the case in India or in the so called "eastern" cultures. Even in the United States you can see bits or leftovers of this attitude. But of course, this situation changed a whole lot in the past few decades. And it'll probably change in India too, I mean, people can get together and make a change.
Trendster
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It's a generalized notion imposed by media. Men also sacrifice. I am explaining my points.
*) - In many parts of the world a Boy is bought up and brainwashed in such a manner that in future he should act as a bread winner, protector and variety of services/products provider to people dependent on him which may even cross double digit figure. So, he is pushed (or forced) into financially productive fields even if his interests are different. I know few brilliant artists, writers (their superb works were published in fan pages of Hindi comics) now working as clerks, managers, security guards (Ha Ha!!), software engineers, etc. I will join the list in 1-2 years. This is sacrifice a guy has to choose a commercially productive career irrespective of his interests.
*) - The perfect example of biased media....is Prostate Cancer (Prostate gland is found only in men) takes about equal number of lives every year in comparison to Breast Cancer. Everyone focuses on Breast Cancer...not even 1% footage to Prostate Cancer. That's discrimination....but no one will ever raise issue on this as "all men are evil" hmmm?
*) - Laws, rules and regulations in favor of females. Many times even false allegations can make you "History Sheeter" criminal in Police records. False rape, molestation and dowry accusations are common in India.
*) - Reservation, quotas, for females in schools, colleges, companies, government jobs, etc. For example it feels awful when you are not selected in a college with 80% average score on higher secondary level and a girl with less then 60% marks gets admission in that 'prestigious' college.
Should I give more examples?
ankionride
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i m sorry, question god not us
look Sarah ur not questioning that to us men hahaha goo question that to GOD plzzz.............we have to follow the way it is written in the shastras............i mean not to be being mean or anything i can not really answer not knowing wat do u mean sacrifice for ideal bahu..............if u like ot share ur problems, i would be in a better situation to give u a better answer for ur question............it might be possible that the other people in ur family might be wrong or may u will be too........soo if u want my help...........plzzz message me hinting me wats upp n wats ur problem with bahu n this particular issue...........thank u'
ankit verma
look Sarah ur not questioning that to us men hahaha goo question that to GOD plzzz.............we have to follow the way it is written in the shastras............i mean not to be being mean or anything i can not really answer not knowing wat do u mean sacrifice for ideal bahu..............if u like ot share ur problems, i would be in a better situation to give u a better answer for ur question............it might be possible that the other people in ur family might be wrong or may u will be too........soo if u want my help...........plzzz message me hinting me wats upp n wats ur problem with bahu n this particular issue...........thank u'
ankit verma
Suryavanshi
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this is not true
Sarah, even I agree that it is not at all correct to say that every time it's women who make all sacrifices. There are many times when men also make sacrifices.
Though women are known as sacrificing gods but when the time needs, men also don't lack behind in making any type of sacrifice for their loved ones.
Since decades, men have been serving as the bread earners for the entire family whether it is a family of 2 or 10 members but no one has ever complained. Who knows what all type of sacrifices does he need to do to earn bread for his loved ones?
Do you have any idea how difficult it has become today to earn a little penny?
Sarah, even I agree that it is not at all correct to say that every time it's women who make all sacrifices. There are many times when men also make sacrifices.
Though women are known as sacrificing gods but when the time needs, men also don't lack behind in making any type of sacrifice for their loved ones.
Since decades, men have been serving as the bread earners for the entire family whether it is a family of 2 or 10 members but no one has ever complained. Who knows what all type of sacrifices does he need to do to earn bread for his loved ones?
Do you have any idea how difficult it has become today to earn a little penny?
i completely agree to the point that men have been sacrificing since ages, being the earning hand in the family. this is my personal experience-
both me and my husband are in a business and both of us are contributing equal time and effort to our venture. because we both share equal responsibilities, we make sure that we bear equal financial pressures and share the domestic workload as far as possible. this makes things much easier and smoother for us all.
it is not a big deal that as i type this comment, my husband is trying to make the baby sleep....
both me and my husband are in a business and both of us are contributing equal time and effort to our venture. because we both share equal responsibilities, we make sure that we bear equal financial pressures and share the domestic workload as far as possible. this makes things much easier and smoother for us all.
it is not a big deal that as i type this comment, my husband is trying to make the baby sleep....
i agree that women should not always be made scapegoats for sacrifices. indian women are very supportive to families and for their sake they sacrifice a lot. but this should not be always. compromises should be made from both the sides. indian women give strength to the families to face the odds, they should be given freedom and liberty to enjoy their lives.
Suryavanshi
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The expectation of a family is always more from women than from men. If a woman wants to pursue their career, they need to do the regular errands of home along with their demanding job. Give time to everyone, see that everyone is happy and yet do not complain. But if man is pursuing his career are there same expectation fro him as well. The point of scarifies comes because one cannot take care of everything and since they do not much of helping hand, they have to choose one, and then of course family takes the first priority
hitesh2108
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I think it is one of the fundamental rights of a woman. We should not interfere in her rights. Just banning abortion or gender selection, we not solve this problem. The market for abortion will be driven underground.
This is like the problem of cigarette. We know that cigarette kills, but we cannot outlaw it.
This is like the problem of cigarette. We know that cigarette kills, but we cannot outlaw it.
well, it is very obvious and know thing that women in india make sacrifices in their married lives. the question will be carried out to several other generations as people are slowly becoming aware of the irrationalities prevailing over the society and trends. the question needs to be asked to the elders who force women to do so because during their times it was a culture.